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How I Manifested My Soulmate From 4000 Miles Away

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Ever wonder how letting go could actually lead to the life of your dreams? Join me, Carissa Andrews, as I unravel my personal journey of manifestation and transformation in Manifest Differently. From navigating the turbulent waters of an unhappy marriage at 19 to the serendipitous moment I met my soulmate, Colin, on Twitter, I promise you'll learn how surrendering control and trusting the universe can reveal life's unexpected wonders. This episode is packed with powerful affirmations and practical exercises to help you release doubt and embrace the surprises the universe has in store for you.

Picture a new home that symbolizes freedom for you but suffocation for your partner. I recount the emotional journey of realizing that sometimes, rewriting the story of your life is necessary. Through a transformative trip to Sedona, Arizona, and inspired by Joe Dispenza, I discovered the power of surrendering old identities and creating space for new beginnings. Learn how walking a labyrinth amidst Sedona's majestic red rocks became a beacon of clarity, guiding me to relinquish control and trust the universe's greater plan for my life.

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Carissa Andrews:

Welcome to Manifest Differently, the podcast for neurodivergent thinkers and anyone looking to approach manifestation in a way that truly works for them. I'm your host, carissa Andrews, here to explore the science, energy and strategies that will help you create the life you love. Let's dive in and Manifest Differently.

Carissa Andrews:

Welcome back to Manifest Differently. I'm Carissa Andrews, author, ceo of Author Revolution and the Neurodivergent Manifestor, and your host. Now. Today I'm going to be getting personal. This is only episode two of this brand new podcast and I'm sharing a story of my biggest manifestation to date, calling in my soulmate Colin while I was navigating a very unhappy marriage and a lot of self-doubt. So, as Neurodivergent Manifestors, it's easy to overthink and second-guess the steps to manifestation, especially when life is feeling messy or overwhelming and there's a lot of emotion going on. But today's story is here to show you that manifestation isn't just about having it all figured out. It's about trusting the quantum field to work its magic. So, before we get started, before I dive in, I want you to think about this affirmation, kind of hang on to it for the week. This is something that I think will help a lot of us, even myself included. Right, for those of you who don't know me a whole lot yet, you're going to come to know very well, I am a double Virgo, so this is for me just as much as it is for you the affirmation to be thinking about is I release the need to control every step and I trust the universe to guide me to what's meant for me. Now, let me repeat that because it's really powerful. Okay, when you hear the underlying words, the underlying meaning, it's really powerful. I release the need to control every step and I trust the universe to guide me to what's meant for me. I think oftentimes we have this notion of what we think we want and we think we know better than the universe, we know better than all the things that are out there working their magic, and we assume that we have to know the right timing, the right way. But then life starts to feel boring and it starts to feel like there's no magic in it, where, if you can lean back and relinquish that control, the universe will surprise and delight you in ways that you could never have seen coming. So you don't need to know what's going to happen, you just need to know that it's already yours. And I'm going to show you how. I let go of my own assumptions, trusted the process and called in my soulmate Colin from 4,000 miles away, even though the odds seemed impossible. Yes, he was on a completely different continent, all right. But before we get into it, before we dig in, I want to get everyone back into their space. Right, I want to get into our nervous system calming situation. So let's just take three deep breaths together and, as you inhale, I want you to visualize breathing in trust. Can you do that? And then, as you exhale, I want you to release doubt and fear. So let's do it. And then, as you exhale, I want you to release doubt and fear. So let's do it. Inhale trust and exhale doubt. Inhale that trust and knowing again and exhale control. And one last time, inhale trust and exhale the how it's going to happen, all right. So imagine for just a moment, while you're in this calm, clear space, that your desires are floating towards you effortlessly. The universe is pulling them into your orbit, they are yours, you can trust, and now you just sit back and allow it to happen. Feels good, doesn't it Okay? So now that we're grounded, let's dive into this story In 2011,.

Carissa Andrews:

It was crazy. It was a place of really deep frustration for me and at the time, I was married, but it wasn't a happy marriage. I was married at 19 years old and we had been married for quite a long time. At that point, I think we were going to be going on 13 years, but I had tried everything to make this particular relationship work. Like we we did all the things. Like we moved to Duluth, minnesota, from our, like, local town. We ended up, you know, trying different houses, trying different things. We had kids, I supported him through his bachelor's degree. I mean, nothing we did seemed to shift everything. It was just really an exhausting relationship.

Carissa Andrews:

And in 2007, I bought a house with this man my ex-husband and it was the absolute perfect house. I loved everything about it. It was just wonderful. Like we had gone there a couple of times. We even kind of sort of broke in. I mean, it wasn't breaking in because the doors were unlocked, but it was a brand new build and we had like we sat there in the living room and imagine what it'd be like to live in the house. I felt like everything we were doing at the time was like synced up, we were on board. We were like maybe this is the thing that's going to finally like start shifting us in the right direction. And it felt right. And we ended up getting the house. Everything kind of fell into. And it felt right. And we ended up getting the house. Everything kind of fell into place. It was fun, it was great.

Carissa Andrews:

But I found out very quickly, like within the first six months, he hated the house, he didn't want to be there. He felt like it was tying him down. He felt like he couldn't breathe and it was suffocating him. And there was this weird energy to the whole thing where it was like this thing that I felt so secure on that, I felt so good about. He felt the opposite, and every day that he would get home from work, it was like another day of just being absolutely horrible, like he was just unhappy and angry and like resentful about everything. So about three years went by and there was just this process of like really kind of dealing with his negativity and trying to help with it. Nothing seemed to work, nothing was shifting and it just it just was not helpful. Right, and as someone who tends to overthink and overcommit, I kept just trying to fix the relationship, even though my gut was already telling me it's probably time to let this go, like not just the house, because that felt like part of it, but like literally the relationship. It didn't feel like there was anything he wanted to do to transition or shift or shake up himself and I didn't want to admit to myself that the story I'd written for my life might need to have a complete rewrite. And it was like oh, all the things.

Carissa Andrews:

Well, in 2010, I started writing and I started creating my new world. It was like I felt this need to escape. So that's where I first began writing fiction. It was October of 2010. I started doing this thing called NaNoWriMo, which is National Novel Writing Month, wrote my very first novel during that timeframe and because of that, it opened some new doors that I didn't know I was even trying to call in.

Carissa Andrews:

So picture this right it's February now 2011. I've already been working on my first novel and my mom and dad were like you know, maybe you guys are just under a lot of stress. Why don't you take a vacation? We'll watch the kids for a week or so, and why don't you go do something? Go someplace you haven't been before.

Carissa Andrews:

And so we took a vacation trip to Sedona, arizona, which was meant to help us reconnect, right, but deep down, I was like I want to go here because I feel called to the energy of this place, and at the time, I was very much into manifestation, very much into mindset work, digging into my own stuff, because I knew I couldn't control him, but I could control me right. And so this trip wasn't just about fixing the relationship, at least not for me. It was about finding clarity, like was there something there that I could tap into Because I knew about the energy, vortexes, all that stuff, right? So Sedona felt like it was an energetic reset or it felt like it should have been right. And when you're surrounded by the red rocks and all the vortex energy, there is an element of this like clarity that comes through.

Carissa Andrews:

So in the resort that we were staying at, there was a labyrinth outside, like just little stones set on the ground so you could walk the labyrinth. And one of the days I remember waking up, deciding to go out there a little bit early and do the labyrinth right. And it was so strange because it was like I was overcome by this need to be like okay, the universe, if this relationship is over, I'm ready to release it. Like I trust you to guide me to what's next, I trust you to point me in the right direction, to give me the insights, the nudges that I need in order to make this work for my evolution right. And it wasn't about him. It wasn't about like I can't control him, I can't fix him. So therefore I need to break up with him. It wasn't like that. It was like this very deep knowing that something about this journey is over and I wasn't ready to release it yet. Does that make sense?

Carissa Andrews:

But that surrender turned out to be a huge turning point for me, because letting go of the control is really difficult. It's really difficult for me and I think it's very difficult for those of us who overthink. Neurodivergence often have this like pattern and we like things to be a certain way, and when something shifts, especially on that kind of monumental scale, it can really mess with our heads. But that trip taught me that sometimes surrendering is really the most powerful thing we can do, because it stops the momentum of all of the energies that we've built up surrounding who we believe we are are. And you know, if you listen to Joe Dispenza at all and you've read Breaking the Habit of being Yourself, you know that if you need change in your life, if you're being called to make change, sometimes that means relinquishing the personality that you're holding on to, and that personality that I had was definitely one tied to him. I mean, I was, like I said, 19 years old when I married him. I was 17 when I met him, so there's this level of like. I grew up with this man, and now I'm 32, 33 years old, and I didn't know what life would look like without that, especially my adult life, because when I moved out at 18, I moved in with him, so it was like this whole shake up of like everything I thought I knew about myself. So what was interesting then, though, was I had that you know that conversation with the universe. I came back from Sedona feeling much more calm and kind of just relaxed about the situation.

Carissa Andrews:

Not a whole lot changed, I'll be honest, in our like day-to-day life for a little while, but by May just a few months later I met Colin, so my now husband. I met him on Twitter, of all places. We were talking about our first books. I was talking about Pandamas, he was talking about his first book, and we just found that we had a lot in common, not only because we were talking about first books. We're trying to figure out how to self-publish. Are we going to self-publish, like all the things? I actually met him. I'm a graphic designer in a past life as well, and so, for me, I was noticing he was struggling with his cover and he asked, like the Twitterverse, for some help. I happened to know what he was looking at or what he was missing, helped him out with that and that's kind of how the conversation all started. Now he lived in England, guys. He lived in Northampton, england.

Carissa Andrews:

I live in Minnesota, like central Minnesota, brainerd at the time, and that's 4,000 miles away, okay, and it felt like the universe was laughing at me, saying you wanted your soulmate right, here you go. But only in retrospect because at the time I had no idea. At the time I was just like, oh sure, I can totally help you with this thing. Of course, you know, oh, we're doing all this stuff right. But what's really interesting about that process was the more that we talked and the more that we got to know each other just as you know, writing, friends and understanding, like the things that are interesting to us. The more that we understood how similar we are, how similarly we think, the more that we understood how similar we are, how similarly we think what is important to us as individuals and how our partners at the time were not fulfilling those things. Because he was in a similar situation he wasn't married, but he did have a partner for almost as long as I had my husband right, so it was the similar kind of vibe where it was.

Carissa Andrews:

We just knew that this was over, but we didn't know how to make it like commit to it, does that make sense? And it was such a muddy, murky thing at the time. I remember thinking like I've only just committed to myself internally, I haven't made any moves on the outside, I haven't done anything external, but the universe was just like you've decided though, and if you know me and how I teach, manifestation I always talk about like your decision is step one, and internally it had clicked. It had clicked to the point of like I knew I was done. I knew it was time to look for something else, and not relationship wise, but like look for something else, as in my goal of life. Like my identity is is what I was looking for and how I wanted to change and how I wanted to feel if I were in another relationship. Like my identity is what I was looking for and how I wanted to change and how I wanted to feel if I were in another relationship. Like I was doing all that process that I teach where it was. Like you got to feel the feelings of being that person, you have to let go of the person that you once were, and it all starts with that decision.

Carissa Andrews:

And so it's just kind of crazy because once we started talking, once we started realizing how similar we are and I kid you, not, guys like we've done the Clifton strengths together. We share seven out of the top 10 in in almost the exact same order. It's it's pretty wild, but, um, we are. We are very much in sync. And as everything was coming together, it was like how could this even work? Like, am I crazy to think that I can leave my marriage and leap into something so unknown? Like I don't really know this guy, I've only been talking to him online, like. But the crazy thing is, the more that we started talking, the more we started to dig in deeper. Like we were asking more profound questions. We were digging into like more interesting things about, like how we would be, how we would show up, like if, if someone was sick, how would you treat them? Like we were asking questions that I don't know that we typically even ask people that we're dating like in face to face, right.

Carissa Andrews:

So by September I knew it was over with my husband and there was just something really powerful in the energy there, like my birthday is September 3rd and so it was like I knew I needed to make a decision, because I was feeling like I was being pulled into separate worlds. On one hand, it was like my old life, the old way of being, my old relationship, and then, on the other hand, it was this new energy of like what would it be like to actually have a relationship where you felt seen, where you felt heard, where the other person shared the same kind of moral compass and wanted to, you know, share themselves in the same type of way? Like what would that look like? So by that September, I had separated from my husband with the intent to divorce him and I almost didn't choose it. Like there was that precipice moment where I had to, you know, I had to really decide again is this the right decision? And I almost didn't make the decision, I almost stayed.

Carissa Andrews:

I remember talking to my best friend, thinking like who am I to do this? Like, am I crazy here? And she was like Carissa, you know you've, we've been friends. She and I have been friends since eighth grade. And she was like Carissa, you know you've, we've been friends. She and I have been friends since eighth grade and she was like you know, you're not happy, he's not happy. You've known that for a long time and you won't know what this other relationship could be unless you give it a chance and maybe it won't work. Maybe it's just your precipice to like get out of the way so that new stuff can come in. Maybe it's just that first step.

Carissa Andrews:

And so it was like I don't know. I was like I was so back and forth On one hand I really wanted to do it and the other hand I was scared. And so I had sent an email to Colin and said you know, I'm not quite sure that we should keep talking so much because we're, I feel like I'm really close to you and I'm not as close to my husband, and I don't know if this is the right place to go or right, right thing to do anymore. And he actually called. We had never had like a face-to-face call at this point, like we we had only communicated through text. He called me on Skype back in the day when Skype was actually a thing I don't even know if Skype is still a thing, but it was then and he actually called me and it was kind of wild because I remember going oh my God, like what. So we had a conversation face-to-face for the first time and he told me how he was feeling, how he was wanting things to go. You know that he would respect my decision, but like he didn't want this to be the end of it and what he could foresee for the future as well. Right, and so it was. It was from that point forward, hearing my best friend's words in my ear and then hearing what Colin was saying, that I was like okay, we're, we're going to, we're going to see what happens. So from that point things moved very fast.

Carissa Andrews:

It was super crazy because September was when I made the decision to to separate and get divorced. I ended up starting to like work on my parents' second house it was actually where I grew up so that I could move out doing all the things by December 2nd that same year. A couple months later, colin had come from England with the intent to just visit to see, like, could this work in person? And three months later I was divorced and married to him and he never left Like he was. It was the wildest whirlwind I have ever seen, like I have never manifested something so powerfully where every domino fell in place like that. Now it's been 13 years, we're still married. It's still amazing. It's just been wild to look back. Now it's been 13 years, we're still married. It's still amazing. It's just been wild to look back. Now it's not to say that everything was hunky-dory.

Carissa Andrews:

Obviously there was a lot of extinction, burst, things that happened in the aftermath of that. Like you know, once the divorce went through, my ex-husband started seeing another woman and she started I don't even know putting ideas in his head. So for a while he was very combative with us. There was a lot of issues when it came to, like parenting time and all the things. My own parents had some issues like viewing me differently. They weren't quite sure about Colin. They didn't understand what I saw in Colin, which was kind of ironic because it's the same stuff that I had issues with them about. Like they couldn't see me and he's a reflection of me, right? And so the things that they couldn't see in him were things that they couldn't see in me, and so it was very interesting. Like for a while we had to separate, go our separate ways and just kind of be estranged, and then we ended up having our son and everything kind of reconciled and it was fine. But there was that period of implosion where the old life had to fall away.

Carissa Andrews:

And I think it's really important when I look back and not just about that, but other manifestations that I've had, whenever I have felt like everything is falling the fuck apart and I don't know what is happening when I'm trying to manifest something or I thought I manifested the thing that I wanted and it's still falling apart. There's a level there that you have to understand that you're calling in something even bigger and either you haven't let go of the identity or the how or the why or the what or the way it's going to come in, or it's still in process of shifting around, like you have to let go of those things in order to step into the new right. So now this year, it's really kind of interesting because I felt the echoes of that same experience. I have been running a company called Author Revolution since 2019. I've been teaching authors since 2017 on how to become indie authors, how to publish, how to manifest, but deep down, it's like I knew there was something that was niggling at me, like there was time to release parts of that, to step into something bigger, and I didn't know what that looked like. And this past year around, or like 2024, around May, I started feeling the pressure again, like the pressure where I felt like I was in two different worlds and I needed to make a decision and I needed to let go of all of the different things that I was trying to put myself under. But that fear of letting go, of not knowing how things are going to unfold, it felt so familiar and because it was like it was back then, in its own way, I knew that the universe was guiding me to what's next. It was guiding me towards, nudging me towards something new.

Carissa Andrews:

But it's so hard for us neurodivergence when we are locked into something right. Like Colin, he is also neurodivergent and probably autistic and ADHD as well, and so he, when he makes a decision on something, it's very difficult for him to change his mind. So like, if let's say, it's dinner, like something as simple as dinner, like he's set his mind on we're going to have, you know, steak and baked potato and veg or something Right, and we find out that there's no baked potatoes. Like there is a moment where it's very difficult to switch gears, like there's almost this, like dang it. Ah, that is not what was in my head.

Carissa Andrews:

And now, when I teach manifestation, there's an element to that right when, if there's something that isn't there, an element that's not there for our manifestation, we know we want it, we know we get it and we know we deserve it. You have a pivotal moment, right, you have there's resistance there, but it's not a block. If, unless you make it be a block Like we could have gone down to the grocery store in this example, right, and got a baked potato Like the grocery store is five minutes away, it's not that big of a deal. Or we could have just decided to have French fries, or we could have decided to do rice, like there's also, or not have anything at all, but we could still enjoy our dinner.

Carissa Andrews:

Now, when I teach, I use a spaghetti example often, like when you're having a manifestation, you want spaghetti and you realize that there's no spaghetti noodles. You have the same choice, right, you could go to the grocery store and get your noodles. You could do different noodles. Maybe you have macaroni, or maybe you go to the restaurant down the road and have spaghetti at their place, or you choose to do something altogether. There's always choices when you're manifesting.

Carissa Andrews:

But if you are locked in which is step two in manifestation, the way I teach it when you're locked in on the thing that you want, you're gonna do whatever it takes to get it. So, for instance, with manifestation for neurodivergence, it's so cool because when we lock in oh, we are locked in baby. But we get a little bit loopy if resistance or something throws us off the track. So when that potato is not there, when those noodles aren't there, either we wobble and feel off kilter or we have to shift our vision. And so it's very, very important that when you know you want something, you get to have it. It's yours. But sometimes maybe you have to go around in a different way than you were anticipating, or sometimes it will be given to you in a different way than you're anticipating, right?

Carissa Andrews:

So if you're like me and you're neurodivergent, you might resonate with the fear that I'm kind of relaying here about letting go or overlay, analyzing all of these steps. Maybe you're holding on to something Is it a job, a relationship, or even an old version of yourself, because it feels safer than trusting the unknown? So I want you to ask yourself these questions. I think they're really powerful and they'll help you to uncover more about where it is that you're trying to go for 2025. Okay, so what if here's question number one what if letting go is the very thing that creates space for your desires to show up? Now, when we have like a container let's just say like a container for something whether it be your personality, for money, for abundance, for love and it's already filled up with ideas, knowledge, past experiences that are counterintuitive to the thing that we're trying to call in, where's the space for it to go? It can't flow into it. Right? We have to let go of some of these things to make more room, and so, again, that question is what if letting go is the very thing that creates space for your desires to show up? Have you thought about that? And what can you let go of today? Is there anything that you need to kind of loosen the grips on? So, question number two what would happen if you stopped trying to figure out the how and just trusted that the universe has your back?

Carissa Andrews:

That's kind of the stage I'm in right now, like I don't know what Manifest Differently podcast is going to do. I don't know what NeuroDivergent Manifestor as a brand is going to do. Yet, like I have no courses for it, I have no true lead magnets for it. Yet I have a meditation that I'm going to be putting on my website soon for Phoenix Energy, because it's 2025. I feel like we are going to vibe into a new version of ourselves. We are releasing the old, starting the new.

Carissa Andrews:

So if you are interested in that free meditation, go over to manifestdifferentlycom and just check it out. It should be on the homepage by the time you hear this, but I have nothing else yet. The podcast, the sub stack, this website is all I have. Everything else is still over at authorrevolutionorg. It's all over at carissaandrewscom. It's like that. All of that I have already created is elsewhere, and so I'm just trusting that this is the new direction, because it feels more aligned, it feels more expansive, it feels more genuine to who I have become over the years. I feel like I am cracking open a new container for relationships in this space, for understanding who I am, for learning more about the nature of reality and consciousness and manifestation, and it just feels I don't even know how to describe it it feels more expansive. It just that must be the word for it.

Carissa Andrews:

So what would happen if you stopped trying to figure out the how and just trusted that the universe has your back? Whatever it is you're manifesting, because when we, when we know that the answer is yes and we're manifesting something, it's not always going to come to you in a way that you imagine. Like I would have had no idea I was going to meet the love of my life on Twitter back in the day, like, or that he'd be from England. Like I had no propensity for anything English, like the biggest thing that I had about England at the time was that I loved Harry Potter. Like I wasn't one of those kids that was like oh my gosh, the British guys and their accents are the best. I wasn't. That wasn't me, I was not even like, not even me. And so sometimes the universe just goes oh here's this cool way that it's going to come about and you wanted it, and so let me give it to you, and I think it's more fun that way.

Carissa Andrews:

We have such pattern recognition minds that good luck freaking, surprising us, good luck bringing us something that we don't already see coming. The universe can, though. The universe absolutely freaking can, and I think that's what's so wild. When we release and relinquish that need to control it. Whatever it is that we're manifesting, and just let it come in whatever way it's meant to, you get to sit back and go holy, holy crap. I did not anticipate that whatsoever For me. Right now, the biggest thing that I'm manifesting is locking into, like my higher vibration of purpose, like I want my purpose to feel expansive, which this is already feeling. So it's great. I feel like I'm in the right place. I want to feel more authentic. I want to feel like what I do makes a difference in the world, and I also want to be compensated for that difference. I want to be compensated. Well, I know that what I offer, what I teach, is elevating the community. It's going to elevate you. It already is.

Carissa Andrews:

Whatever you've listened to, if you've made it this far in this podcast episode, you've already been touched by something that has sparked a seed or like twinkled something in your eyes, like there's something here that has made you go huh. I never thought about that, and that's what this is all about for me, and I know that it's worthy of abundance in this world, and you should too. Your gifts are the same, whatever it is you're manifesting. Whatever it is that you're trying to pull in, it's yours. You just have to acknowledge and accept that that's what you get to have. Your desires are divine guidance of what you get to receive, and if you don't even believe in divine guidance, it could be a different version of yourself and a different timeline, or a different version of yourself in the future. That already knows you have it, so of course you want it Like there's an element of us in this quantum field that knows we get to have anything we want. We just have to get out of our own way, all right.

Carissa Andrews:

So to me, manifesting differently is about working with your brain and nervous system, not against it. It's about trusting that we get to be guided, that we get to have what we want, that it's okay if letting go feels hard sometimes. That's why surrender is a practice, not a one-time event. So even if your desires feel impossible right now, like falling in love with someone 4 000 miles away, just know that the universe is not bound by logic. It's not bound by the laws that we have given the universe like it has its own laws. It's bound by your beliefs, though, of what's possible. So what do you want to believe instead, if there's something that's keeping you stuck, what can you believe that would be more empowering? What if you could just shift it just a little bit to allow you to bring it in? So I want to give you three really practical steps for manifesting differently this week and I want them to help you as you go forward this week, as you think about your manifestations and try to pull things in.

Carissa Andrews:

Okay, so, step one, surrender with intention. Can you do that? So I want you to take one area of your life where you're holding on too tightly For me for a very long time that was money and just say this right, I release this to the universe. I trust you to guide me to what's meant for me and then journal about how this feels, because I think it's really powerful to relinquish that control we have in one of my author revolution courses. This thing where we have the universe is your PA. So when there's things on your plate as an author and it's too much for you, you write them down on the PA side and you hand it over to the universe, which the universe is your PA, okay, and you allow the universe to handle it. And it's so powerful because it lifts that off and it gives you the relief that you're seeking. And it's so powerful because it lifts that off and it gives you the relief that you're seeking, and so many of us when we are manifesting anything. Honestly, what we're looking for is relief, and so just journal on it. Think about how that's going to feel, okay. So, step one surrender with intention. Take that area of your life and say I release this to the universe. I trust you to guide me to what's meant for me. Okay.

Carissa Andrews:

Now step two stop trying to predict the how. Okay, focus on the what you can do and the why, perhaps, but not the how. Like. Focus on how you're wanting to feel if you have it. Focus on how you're wanting to impact, perhaps, but not the how it arrives. For example, instead of worrying about how your soulmate will appear, focus on how you want to feel in the relationship.

Carissa Andrews:

Okay, does that make sense? Because that was really what I was doing when I was doing that labyrinth. It was all about, like, I want to feel connected, I want to feel seen, I want to feel heard, I want to feel like, um, I am like the person that they really see and want to be with in all the ways like that. That was kind of the vibe where it was not my reality at the time. Okay, so think about how you're, what you're trying to call in and how you're trying to feel. And then, step three, look for the synchronicities. The universe speaks to us in signs, so pay attention to the small nudges, like repeated numbers or names or even a random Twitter conversation that could change your life. Okay, that is really key, because sometimes you just don't know what that random Twitter conversation is going to be. I mean, I know that Twitter is not a thing and I wouldn't touch X with a barge pole, but you get what I'm saying. Like it could be odd blue sky for all I know.

Carissa Andrews:

Like it could be anywhere but just know that the universe is going to send you signs and so if you're looking for them, you're actually training your reticular activating system in your brain to notice more of them. And when you do that, you're like tapping into this quantum field of possibilities and potential, instead of collapsing the wave down to a particle and assuming that everything is as it appears. We don't want that. When we're manifesting our life, we want to expand back out into this wave function and if you don't know what I'm talking about, it's quantum physics. We'll talk more about it on this podcast. But just know that, like when you expand outward into this potential, where anything goes, you will see it, you will see the possibilities, you will see the synchronicities and you are training your physiology in your brain, your neurology in your brain, the chemicals in your body and brain to notice it and then to give you those signs and signals that make you feel good because you have found it Okay. So this week I want you to practice letting go, letting go of one of the assumptions that's holding you back. Remember to journal about what happens as you release control. That's holding you back. Remember to journal about what happens as you release control and you might just see the universe work its magic.

Carissa Andrews:

Now, for me, when I do this, I tend to see, like signs in the shape of hearts, like I will see in nature, hearts everywhere I go. Like it'll be a cloud that's a heart. It'll be a shadow on the ground that looks like a heart. It'll be a leaf in the shape of a heart, or a hole in a leaf in the shape of a heart. Like I've I've seen. I've seen hearts and like all sorts of things in ways that like it wouldn't even make sense to have a heart there. But I see them and so I know I'm on the right track when I start seeing those hearts, right, and the universe just lets you know it's nudging you in the right direction. So today, just as a reminder, I shared how trusting the universe, letting go of an unhappy marriage and believing in the impossible led me to my soulmate and ultimately to a life beyond whatever I could have imagined. Like I would not have envisioned my life now at all. Like being a, an international best-selling author, having three different pen names, teaching authors on platforms. Like teaching you manifestation. Never In a million years I would never have thought it. But here I am.

Carissa Andrews:

So remember, manifestation isn't about controlling the process. It's about trusting. What's meant for you is already yours, like it's already there. You just need to be open enough to call it in and to drop any of the assumptions that keep it away from you. So what's one thing you're ready to let go of? Share it with me on social media today, or journal about it for yourself. Just dig in a little bit and see what you're letting go.

Carissa Andrews:

Last year, for me, was definitely the year of letting go. I had a bracelet that said let go as my word of the year. This year it's limitless. So when you shed things, when you let go, there's so much more that's coming up. So next week, we'll be diving into how your nervous system impacts your ability to manifest, and I'll be giving you some practical tools to align your energy. It's going to be a really fun one, and one that might be a little eye-opening for you if you didn't even know that your nervous system could be kind of getting in your way. So you don't want to miss it. Now one more closing affirmation that I want to give you. I trust the universe to guide me to what's mine in ways that are greater than I could ever imagine. All right, there you have it. Remember manifesting isn't about doing the things the way everyone else does. It's about trusting yourself, working with your unique energy and allowing the magic to unfold in its own way. That's what it means to manifest differently.

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